Enter in the world of eating disorders means to explore a very special dimension ruled by a tyrant, loved and hated, respected and feared at the same time: food. But the food is not to be the problem: a person to raise the food to the rank of tyrant.
Through the despot will rule the world, their lives, their family members. Through him we experience the power, domination, someone you feel on top of everything and everyone. But it is an ephemeral power that sooner or later out of control and domination until we become slaves total cancellation, the self-contempt, self-destruction. Still, that impression by going beyond the initial stiffness, of persistence, security, one can see, hidden behind the mask, and then later turn out to be a great despair, extreme suffering and insecurity. The food takes on a communicative become the signs point to a need in which we can identify the legitimate aspiration of every human being, that is exist as a unique and unrepeatable. And the thread running, despite their uniqueness, people anorexic / bulimic, there is this desire, the search for identity and meaning. Bulimia and anorexia are not diseases but symptoms of a therapeutic solution to a person's existential drama. In an age when the cult of efficiency and image dominate The scene there is a risk that a person intent on building its own identity, tends to divert attention from itself to the aesthetics. It ends to relate its value, self-esteem to kg, cm, the body shapes. But because this solution and not others? Why look at all costs thinness? It 'possible that this is in relation to research a role for the woman who, in the present social organization, is to support the conflict between maternal role, connatu-rato to the fact of being born female, and professional realization cultural fees required by current (an obese woman manager does not raise much enthusiasm ...). Cancel their female identity (The core symptom of anorexia is amenorrhea) becomes necessary in order to feel accepted and valued. Do not forget we are witnessing daily that under the historical annulment of the mother woman (contraception, abortion, low birth rate). In fact, the increase of these issues has been exactly when the so-called feminist revolution in the 60s. Want to point out the obvious contradiction their uniform role to men. It 's inevitable that this "non-being", this "show" sooner or later result in a void, a feeling of worthlessness and inadequacy. A gap in a projected future as empty. A desperate search for identity. The "too much" or "no" food as a way of recovering the self, a real presence. Welcoming in this context becomes crucial. Accepting a person is tantamount to attributing an identity: that of being human and not a patient who is often listed as a background (taking care, return!). It 'easy "talking" with someone anorexic / bulimic feel a sense of helplessness. One has the impression that being in a street with no outlet, crashing into a wall and then to experience the same feelings of failure and impasse that live the same patients. The way out for the therapist at that point is to consider the person a chronic patient, a solution that removes however, no responsibility, and we "save" professionally, perhaps by delegating everything to a drug. There is a painting by Magritte is a huge boulder up a mountain. It seems poised to fall. This painting I consider the metaphor dell'inguaribilità . The curious rock for its location at the same time scary. This might be invested. Better turn off, maybe send someone else, or ignore it, leaving his fate. Or groped to shore. In any case, we will see more as a rock "abnormal." Of course there is also perhaps unrecoverable, but we should at least wonder about the meaning of some treatment programs that scotomize the person. Asking now targets "standardized" on a model exposes these people to aetiological sense of failure plunging deeper into depression, in contempt of itself. Instead encourage them, appreciate their efforts, even those which did not go well, to act on their resources, putting aside the problem, it returns them a sense of dignity that is fundamental and crucial aspect to induce improvement.
Through the despot will rule the world, their lives, their family members. Through him we experience the power, domination, someone you feel on top of everything and everyone. But it is an ephemeral power that sooner or later out of control and domination until we become slaves total cancellation, the self-contempt, self-destruction. Still, that impression by going beyond the initial stiffness, of persistence, security, one can see, hidden behind the mask, and then later turn out to be a great despair, extreme suffering and insecurity. The food takes on a communicative become the signs point to a need in which we can identify the legitimate aspiration of every human being, that is exist as a unique and unrepeatable. And the thread running, despite their uniqueness, people anorexic / bulimic, there is this desire, the search for identity and meaning. Bulimia and anorexia are not diseases but symptoms of a therapeutic solution to a person's existential drama. In an age when the cult of efficiency and image dominate The scene there is a risk that a person intent on building its own identity, tends to divert attention from itself to the aesthetics. It ends to relate its value, self-esteem to kg, cm, the body shapes. But because this solution and not others? Why look at all costs thinness? It 'possible that this is in relation to research a role for the woman who, in the present social organization, is to support the conflict between maternal role, connatu-rato to the fact of being born female, and professional realization cultural fees required by current (an obese woman manager does not raise much enthusiasm ...). Cancel their female identity (The core symptom of anorexia is amenorrhea) becomes necessary in order to feel accepted and valued. Do not forget we are witnessing daily that under the historical annulment of the mother woman (contraception, abortion, low birth rate). In fact, the increase of these issues has been exactly when the so-called feminist revolution in the 60s. Want to point out the obvious contradiction their uniform role to men. It 's inevitable that this "non-being", this "show" sooner or later result in a void, a feeling of worthlessness and inadequacy. A gap in a projected future as empty. A desperate search for identity. The "too much" or "no" food as a way of recovering the self, a real presence. Welcoming in this context becomes crucial. Accepting a person is tantamount to attributing an identity: that of being human and not a patient who is often listed as a background (taking care, return!). It 'easy "talking" with someone anorexic / bulimic feel a sense of helplessness. One has the impression that being in a street with no outlet, crashing into a wall and then to experience the same feelings of failure and impasse that live the same patients. The way out for the therapist at that point is to consider the person a chronic patient, a solution that removes however, no responsibility, and we "save" professionally, perhaps by delegating everything to a drug. There is a painting by Magritte is a huge boulder up a mountain. It seems poised to fall. This painting I consider the metaphor dell'inguaribilità . The curious rock for its location at the same time scary. This might be invested. Better turn off, maybe send someone else, or ignore it, leaving his fate. Or groped to shore. In any case, we will see more as a rock "abnormal." Of course there is also perhaps unrecoverable, but we should at least wonder about the meaning of some treatment programs that scotomize the person. Asking now targets "standardized" on a model exposes these people to aetiological sense of failure plunging deeper into depression, in contempt of itself. Instead encourage them, appreciate their efforts, even those which did not go well, to act on their resources, putting aside the problem, it returns them a sense of dignity that is fundamental and crucial aspect to induce improvement.
From "The medical person-centered counseling"
